Saturday, 22 November 2014

a guide to healing yourself

It's engraved in our codes to have a slightly imperfect life, yet nobody embraces it. We've been raised on movies that make life seem like it should be perfect, so we blame ourselves when it's not, and we convince ourselves that something is wrong. Lately it seems that my blog has transformed into a study on weird human behaviour, but I can't help but be fascinated with the strange things we do. Unlike other animals, we don't seem to be able to get up and carry on as easily. We need to build ourselves back up before we can try again, and there's nothing wrong with that. There's something to admire in people who have been through the worst and still fight back, every time. 

I'm currently in the process of attempting to become happier, and I know this is a goal for most people too. Whether you're going through a challenging time, or just don't feel too great, I really hope I can be some help to you.

I am so frustrated by people who tell me "happiness is a choice!", as if I am choosing to feel this way. I understand that positive quotes and the possibility of a better day isn't going to help, so I have attempted to devise a list of things that will guide you on your way. 

  • Re-discover things that you once loved. Watch a film you loved as a child or visit your old favourite place. Things that provided happiness and comfort in your past are likely to do the same now, so take some time to find them again.
  • Find new things that you love, too. Learn to paint or remix classical music, bake, write a book, make a short film. Don't take it too seriously and treat it like therapy. Tell yourself that this is going to help you on the road to becoming a better person. Life is so long sometimes, it's good to have something to fill the void, and it's always good to learn something new anyway.
  • Read. Sometimes all I need is to escape between the pages of a book to feel okay again. There's also something so satisfying about the sense of accomplishment that finishing a whole book can give you. Learn from the characters and carry their story with you for the rest of your life.
  • Change something around you - or everything! When I'm stressed I take down all the pictures in my room and replace them with new ones. I move my furniture and change my bedding, and sometimes I dye my hair. An instant change is so refreshing, and it's not something we should be afraid of. 
  • Wake up early and let yourself feel the serenity that being the only person awake in the house supplies you with. Use the time to make your morning easier. Make something interesting or complicated for breakfast, or do your hair differently. 
  • Eat healthily - but eat what you want. When I'm not living on chocolate and microwave rice, I have more energy and I generally feel better. Still allow yourself to eat what you want. Don't calorie count or worry about carbs, it will only add more stress into your life. If you want to eat a whole back of biscuits then do it because you deserve to, but try to make a concious effort to add more healthy foods to your diet.
  • Make a happy playlist. Sometimes I don't need the help of a friend or family member, I just want to be comforted by music. Play anything upbeat or positive, whether it's ABBA or One Direction. Music is so powerful in the sense that it can really transform your mood, that there's really no time to be a music snob when you're sad. If it makes you smile: play it.
  • Have a shower! If I ever feel like the stress is too much, I let the water burn my skin as I drown my sorrows in Snow Fairy shower gel. Spend 10 minutes or an hour letting the steam be your therapy. Imagine that as you're scrubbing your skin, you're scrubbing your problems away, watching them run down the drain.
  • Sleep. Sleep is the best escape, because it's as if you don't exist for that time. Put on your favourite pyjamas and let yourself drift away, giving your mind and body the rest it needs to carry on.
  • Give yourself time. Don't be angry at yourself for taking so long to be okay again, be patient. Use this time to learn about yourself and teach yourself to be happy.

Life is so unpredictable that we never know what's around the corner. If you're reading this and things don't seem to fit right now, I truly hope that soon you feel so immensely happy that you wake up every day smiling. Please remember that I'm only an email away at any time, and I will always listen.
I hope your week was amazing, and if not, lets both try again next week.


  1. This is a amazing post! I am going to go amd make my self a hapy playlist on spptify now.

    1. Thank you so much! Let me know what songs you include :) <3

  2. Beautifully written. I do love the honesty of the blog, I truly do x

    1. Thank you so much! I can't explain how much that means to me <3